I've been thinking a lot about what I want in a relationship, and I was reading a blog over on xanga (antisoccermom's blog to be exact) about the ten things she wants in a man, so I thought I would drudge up my own list. I'm kind of picky though, so there may be wiggle room, but anyways. Here goes nothing:
10. I want a man who wants me for me, not who I was, not who I may or may not become, but for me as I am right at that moment. I may not be perfect, but he better think the world of me, simply because my first love (God) does.
9. I want to be treated like a lady, i.e open doors, pull out chairs, walk up to the door to pick me up, pick up the tab at least some of the time. What I do not want is a chauvinistic pig who thinks he is God's gift to women. Put simply, your not.
8. For the love of all things good in this world, please be able to carry on a conversation. I am a writer. My entire life revolves around words and quite frankly, so does yours, no matter what field your in. Single syllable answers annoy the living daylights out of me.
7. Please have a sense of humor. I could go on for days about this, but I won't.
6. My God, family, and friends come first, in that order. That will probably change once I get married, but then that makes the man fall under the family category at that point, so not really.
5. Physical, mental, and emotional abuse will NOT be tolerated. No questions, your ass will be kicked to the curb faster than you can say criminal prosecution.
4. Please don't ask me if I will sleep with you on the first date or on the 30th date. If we're not married, its not happening.
3. Don't try to change me. For the most part I like the way I am right now. I am perfectly aware of things that may need changing, but that is between me and God.
2. Don't discuss our issues with your friends or with any other public medium you use to vent. I don't need the world kowing our issues. I will have the same respect for you if you do the same for me.
1. I know this one is probably a no-brainer to most of you, but trust me, its here for a reason. Please maintain your personal hygeine. This means showering, washing of face, brushing of teeth, and doing laundry on a somewhat regular basis. There is a reason this one is number one. Also, if you smoke (which I hope you don't) there will be no kissing until you have brushed your teeth AND washed your mouth out with mouth wash. I used to smoke, and I can't stand the taste. blech...
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2. Don't discuss our issues with your friends or with any other public
medium you use to vent. I don't need the world kowing our issues. I
will have the same respect for you if you do the same for me.
This is a HUGE issue for me too. It's one of the reasons why the breakup with The Ex was so devastating. I keep issues between "us" and resolve them between "us" out of respect for her and our relationship. She told the world everything (from her side at least) and turned me into this horrible person, resulting in the loss of most of our common friends to her after the split. I never answered the allegations -- I figured that if somebody truly believed in me, they would have faith that I was a better man than what she was portraying. I guess I really didn't have that many real friends.
Also, I think your #5 should say "will NOT be tolerated." :)
@the_last_kiss - oops, my bad...going to correct that now...
9. ME TOO!!! There are so many people who think chivalry is either demeaning or dead. I think that it shows immense respect for me as a woman and I am so glad you feel the same!
8. It's amazing how many people are unable to do that. Truly amazing.
4. Abstinence...also grossly devalued. I am with you 100%--stay strong! I'm one of the few people I know who have made that decision, and I'm glad I did!!
1. You're right. Smoking is gross.
@LaBellaMorena - Smoking is absolutely disgusting. Did it for years, can stand to be around it anymore. It makes me physically ill. I really considered putting that one on a number of its own, but figured it went with the personal hygiene...